My youngest son has some behavioral issues but every once in a while will spend the weekend with his father. Many parents love having a kid-free weekend, but, there are a lot of parents that love having their kids around. When I tell you my son is a handful, he is a handful! Just yesterday morning he was jumping to wake me up and it was the most annoying thing- at the time. This morning he sprinted through the house for 45 minutes and I may have ricocheted off the walls. So much for waking up to calm morning.
Now it’s into the evening and I have had a moderate amount of self-care, but nothing out of the ordinary. I didn’t get a massage or facial because that Is not on my list of things this month. I spent most of the day in silence because that is so rare. I’m lying becuase I watched the Lifetime Move Network (my guilty pleasure, and addiction).
Missing the Chao Creator
I actually miss my monster because he brings so much energy to the house. All the noise, running, jumping, talking, questions, nagging, complaining, and eating. I miss those things that filter in my day. When I think about needing a break from Momming, I don’t think about it in days, but rather in hours. I mean taking an uninterrupted shower is glorious because it rarely happens. I won’t even start with going to pee without “Mom, where are you going?”. For the record, we do not have an outhouse, he likes to ask because he makes sure I am nearby.
After a few hours of being alone and calm, it gets boring and not becuse my son does things with me. We both respect one another’s space and entertain ourselves and participate in our own work and hobbies. We share a few of the same interests, but we usually plan for specific time together.
I truly enjoy seeing his *extreme* active nature and his intense urgency for life because It’s all new to him. He’s grabbing and maximizing what the world is offering him; rolling with it because that’s what we’re supposed to do with life.
Chaos is the Calm; Calm is the Chaos
The Principle of Polarity- “Nothing rests; everything moves, everything vibrates.” “Everything is dual; everything has poles, everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”
My son’s absence and presence bring balance to my life, and I am grateful because it’s difficult to find. His extra amount of energy makes up for my lesser amount of energy. My calming and serene ways, help him cool down and regulate his energy.
When I see him Sunday night, I’ll feed off of his energy so he can reacclimate back into his space. Monday morning he’ll be back with jumping and bouncing off of me, vying for my calmness interjecting his hyper.